How to Offer Genuine Help

All of us are subject to helping too much at times, or offering the wrong kind of help. There are steps we can take to ensure we are acting in the best interest of others.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJuly 21, 2021help, motivation, journey, conflicting feelings, social awareness, social cues, unwarranted kindness, self-serving help, heavy-handed help, narcissist, ulterior motive, listening, motives, open-ended questions, control, outcomesComment

Use These Motivational Tips to Get Moving

Making a list is one thing—tackling it is another. If looking at a long To Do list makes you anxious, one of these motivational tips might help.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJuly 14, 2021motivation, bird by bird, Swiss Cheese method, procrastination, paralysis, tolerations, overwhelm, anxiety, time management, Anne Lamott, dopamine, neurotransmitter, ADD, Ritalin, self-talk Comments

To Free up Energy, Take Care of Distractions

Small, nagging tasks can pile up. Setting aside some time to complete them can boost our energy and focus.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJuly 7, 2021energy, distractions, Steven Covey, Linda Formichelli, life coach, stress, tolerations Comments

The Parenting Ride

Parenting is an exhilarating ride that lasts a lifetime. Much as we want to impart our wisdom to the next generation, they have to acquire it just as we did, one stage at a time.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 30, 2021parenting, anxiety, wisdom, authenticity, teenagers, childhood, adult children, grandparenting, worry, Erik Erikson, 8 Stages of Adult Development, psychology, Erik Church, journeyComment

Techniques for Supporting our Partners Through Change

When trying to support loved ones through behavioral changes, a kind, collaborative approach works best. A communication technique called Motivational Interviewing can help.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 23, 2021change, transformation, communication, relationships, empathy, behavior, motivation, frustration, Motivational Interviewing, collaboration, ambivalence, support, holding hope Comments

To Boost Your Mood, try Looking at old Photographs

Studies show that one very quick way to reset our moods is to look at old photographs. Recalling fond memories and fast friends reminds us of happier times.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 16, 2021mood, happiness, meditation, memories, body image, perspective, aging, authenticity, mistakesComment

To Err is Human; to Forgive (Ourselves), Divine

No one likes to make mistakes, yet we all make them. Learning to accept that fact and handle our blunders gracefully can improve our relationships.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 9, 2021mistakes, failure, parenting, expectations, psychology, perfection, relationships, apologizing, emotions Comments

The Calming, Healing Power of the Sea

Human beings have a universally positive response to water. Being near it calms and connects us, soothing our souls.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 2, 2021water, ocean, sea, healing, soul, spiritual connection, baptism, heart rate, guided meditation, miraclesComment

Choose Your Words Carefully

The words we use have power, especially those we use with ourselves. Choosing a single word to focus on each day can help us be more purposeful about our daily lives.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMay 26, 2021words, tranquility, verbal development, vocabulary, mental guide, positive attitude, intention, purposeful living, daily practices, mental health, communicationComment

The Goldilocks Theory of Creativity

When you become frustrated trying to solve a problem, rather than persist for too long, take a break to do another activity that requires some focus. Research shows it will allow your brain to keep working on the problem to find a solution.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMay 19, 2021creativity, problem solving, idea generation, brainstorming, rest, breaks, frustration, motivation, Goldilocks, stimulation, ADHD, unconscious, MozartComment

Hugs Reduce our Stress and Lift our Moods

When we receive a warm embrace, we don’t have to wonder about how someone feels about us. In addition to improving our relationships, hugs reduce our stress, strengthen our immune systems, and promote resilience.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMay 12, 2021hugs, health, happiness, resilience, immune systems, relationships, physical touch, affection, relaxation, anti-depressants, self-esteem, mood Comments

Delight in Moments of Joy

There are many opportunities for moments of pleasure throughout our day, if only we take note of them. Doing so can increase our overall level of happiness.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMay 5, 2021joy, bliss, delight, positive affirmations, happiness, pleasure, enjoyment, paying attention, gratitude, Greater Good Science Center, positive psychology, well-being, simple pleasures, units of momentary happinessComment

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