When Kids go off to College—The Myths vs. The Reality

Sending a child off to college evokes complicated emotions, including sadness and anxiety. In time, most parents adjust, and begin to take advantage of their newfound freedom to explore their own opportunities for growth.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiApril 28, 2021college, letting go, love, teenagers, transitions, empty nest syndrome, parent-child relationship, dread, anxiety, grief, change, feelings, individual growth, goals, parentingComment

How Spring Cleaning can Bring us Peace

The concept of spring cleaning is linked to various religious and cultural traditions. Cleaning actually has health benefits associated with it, and decluttering can improve our moods.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiApril 21, 2021cleaning, peace, decluttering, self-care, Marie Kwon, letting go, Steven Covey, sharpen the saw, Daily OM, setting intentionsComment

The Natural Ebb and Flow of Friendships

Friendship is a rare and special gift. Each relationship has its own pattern, which evolves over time. It’s best not to hold on too tightly.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiApril 14, 2021friendship, friends, relationships Comments

You Deserve a Break Today

To have a happy life, it’s important to find balance in all things, but especially in the areas of work and play.

Turn Inward to Rediscover Yourself

Being too other-focused comes at a cost. It is only when we become still and listen that we can return to ourselves and discover the next right thing.

Why it's Good to Accept Help

Reciprocity in relationships gives each person a turn to be the giver and a turn to be the receiver. If we exclusively give, we rob others of the opportunity to feel the joy inherent in helping others.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 24, 2021help, giving, taking, assistance, sensitivity, childhood, shame, embarrassment, shadow self, negative emotions, compassion, inner child, reciprocity, relationships Comments

Blessings From the Irish

For all the contributions the Irish have made to civilization, it’s their people—full of charm, stories, and song—that we celebrate today.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 17, 2021blessings, Irish, Ireland, St. Patrick, Holderness Family, history, Christianity, stereotypes, positive traits, heritage, troubles, happinessComment

Boost Your Mental Immunity Through Reflection

Just as we can take steps to develop physical immunity, we can cultivate mental immunity as protection against suffering. Meditation and reflection can help lessen the intensity of negative thoughts and feelings.

Showing Compassion to our Shadow Selves

Each of us has some parts of our personalities we’re not proud of. Rather than try to shun our “shadow selves,” we can integrate them back into our core self by becoming curious about their origins, and showing them compassion.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 3, 2021compassion, shadow self, truth, curiosity, permission, personality, decision making, negative emotions, inner critic, therapy, psychotherapy, the self, feelings, protection Comments

The Benefits of Kicking up Your Heels

Exercise of any kind has been shown to decrease depression and anxiety, but dancing is especially liberating as it allows us a physical expression of our emotions.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 24, 2021dancing, endorphins, de-stress, stress relief, anxiety, depression, Carole King, mental health, relaxation techniques, mood, sleep, concentrationComment

Retrain Your Brain to Manage Your Fears

Fixating on a particular fear may be a symptom of high-functioning anxiety. The solution is to learn relaxation and other techniques to interrupt the cycle of worrying.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 17, 2021fears, managing fears, fixating, overthinking, obsessing, high-functioning anxiety, anxiety, perfectionism, fixations, resilience, worry, relaxation techniques, breathingComment

A Celebration of Love

“Openheartedness” speaks to the action that’s necessary on our part in order to embrace all our sisters and brothers. It’s never too late to learn how to access more loving feelings.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 10, 2021love, valentines, Valentine's Day, Claudia Luiz, being single, holidays, Sanskrit, openhearted, closed heart Comments

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