Letting Go

As parents, we’re proud of our kids at every stage and we look forward to their next steps. Letting go is hard, but it’s important for us to learn to trust them as they make their way in the world.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMay 16, 2024letting go, trust, parenting, grandparenting, adult children, adult development Comments

When Life is Hard, Learn to Play the Long Game

It’s much easier to make short-run decisions than long-run ones, especially when we are stressed. But with patience and imagination, we can learn to play the long game, which yields greater rewards in the future.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMay 3, 2024commitment, long game, trust, relationships, parenting, perspecitive, maturity, gratification, challenges, determination, courage, outcomes, skills, decisions Comments

How to Be a Finisher

Often we give up on projects when we get stuck and can’t figure out what the next step is. Setting aside our embarrassment and asking for help is the surest way to bring a project to completion.

Evaluating and Redefining Your Personal Values

Taking the time to examine our personal values can help us in our decision making. Communicating our underlying beliefs to others can reduce conflict in our relationships.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 25, 2021values, decision making, principles, judgment, family, parenting, experiences, counseling, squabbles, conflict, relationships, communication, tension, harmony Comment

The Parenting Ride

Parenting is an exhilarating ride that lasts a lifetime. Much as we want to impart our wisdom to the next generation, they have to acquire it just as we did, one stage at a time.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 30, 2021parenting, anxiety, wisdom, authenticity, teenagers, childhood, adult children, grandparenting, worry, Erik Erikson, 8 Stages of Adult Development, psychology, Erik Church, journeyComment

To Err is Human; to Forgive (Ourselves), Divine

No one likes to make mistakes, yet we all make them. Learning to accept that fact and handle our blunders gracefully can improve our relationships.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 9, 2021mistakes, failure, parenting, expectations, psychology, perfection, relationships, apologizing, emotions Comments

When Kids go off to College—The Myths vs. The Reality

Sending a child off to college evokes complicated emotions, including sadness and anxiety. In time, most parents adjust, and begin to take advantage of their newfound freedom to explore their own opportunities for growth.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiApril 28, 2021college, letting go, love, teenagers, transitions, empty nest syndrome, parent-child relationship, dread, anxiety, grief, change, feelings, individual growth, goals, parentingComment

You Deserve a Break Today

To have a happy life, it’s important to find balance in all things, but especially in the areas of work and play.

Owning Your Talents

Sometimes we forget to look at all the good we do, and to own all the things we do right. It is never too late to work on your self-confidence.

The Struggle to Forgive

The decision to offer someone forgiveness is often a difficult one. Understanding some of the factors involved may lead to greater compassion, and eventually to the possibility of reconciliation.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMay 27, 2020forgiveness, healing, tension, relationships, reconciliation, intention, self-image, apology, parenting, conditioning, shame, defenses, frustration, mercy, resentments, strugglesComment

How to be Yourself

Our personalities are formed in part as a reaction to our early environments. The Enneagram model can help us understand our acquired personality traits, and provide a pathway for growth so that we can get closer to our true essence.

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