It’s not always easy to be happy for others when they share good news. Learning to do so can improve our relationships and benefit us in other ways as well.

How to Hold a Loved One Accountable

When we need to address problematic behavior with loved ones, doing so from a loving stance rather than a blaming one encourages them to take responsibility for their words and actions.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 16, 2023accountability, responsibility, empathy, truth, behavior, confrontation, blaming, shaming, expectations, close relationships, consequences, self-awareness, love, mistakesComment

Perspective for Unsettling Times

Tragedies in other parts of the world can make us feel helpless. To keep ourselves from becoming overwhelmed, we can pray for the victims, hold them close to our hearts, and contribute to charities on their behalf.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 2, 2022perspective, Ukraine, tragedy, peace, conflict, Glennon Doyle, Together Rising, Elizabeth Gilbert, empathy, compassion, Katrina Kenison, self-careComment

Healing the World Through Compassion

Human suffering is inevitable, but it is highly distressing to watch. Compassion for those in pain can serve as an antidote and compel us to help wherever we can.

Techniques for Supporting our Partners Through Change

When trying to support loved ones through behavioral changes, a kind, collaborative approach works best. A communication technique called Motivational Interviewing can help.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJune 23, 2021change, transformation, communication, relationships, empathy, behavior, motivation, frustration, Motivational Interviewing, collaboration, ambivalence, support, holding hope Comments

How to Become More Trustworthy

Wherever we go, we have the opportunity to set the tone and positively influence others. Being “impeccable with your word” doesn’t mean just telling the truth, but being authentic in all situations.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 3, 2021trust, trustworthiness, trustworthy, honesty, devotion, faithfulness, The Four Agreements, ripple effect, transparency, integrity, reputation, communication, gossip, empathy, judgementComment

The Path to Healing

As a nation, we’re having honest conversations about difficult topics. Growing pains are hard. We know we can’t go back. We have to press on, hoping and praying that we will emerge with greater clarity, empathy, and awareness.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiNovember 4, 2020healing, therapy, trials, tribulations, journey, transformation, heartbreak, anger, racial injustice, honesty, This is Us, CNN, Dan Fogelman, breakdown, anxiety, compassion, clarity, empathy, pain, peace, strength, wisdomComment

To Reveal, or not to Reveal

The decision about whether to confide in someone requires courage. But if you choose to open up to a trusted friend, it can deepen your connection, and lead to increased intimacy.

Just as you Are

It is never too late to learn to give ourselves nurturance and understanding, especially when we make mistakes.

Life's Rich Pageant

It makes sense to honor the collective sadness related to this virus. But then we need to carry on, even joyfully, as those who have passed on would likely want us to.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiApril 15, 2020resilience, negative emotions, positive emotions, joy, empathy, compassion, grieving, rebirth, resurgenceComment

Why Curiosity is the Newest Relationship Tool

It takes intention and a lot of practice to be able to stay calm and be patient while we are trying to sleuth out what might be going on with someone. Developing a habit of curiosity can help.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiNovember 20, 2019curiosity, masks, false faces, understanding, empathy, compassion, relationships, relationship tool Comments

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