When we find ourselves giving inauthentic praise and compliments, and saying yes when we really mean no, our confusing response may be a reflexive coping mechanism called fawning.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 14, 2024fawning, people pleasing, fight, flight, freeze, trauma, Pete Walker, guilt, regret, personality, praise, narcissism, triggers, boundaries, unworthiness, habits Comments

When There are No Words for Your Feelings

People with a condition called alexithymia have trouble identifying, processing, and expressing their emotions. If it is a learned response rather than a genetic disorder, information and support can help them expand their emotional awareness.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiSeptember 28, 2022alexithymia, feelings, emotions, words for feelings, emotional experience, emotionally aware, affect, relationships, communication, avoidance, genetic, trauma, love languageComment

Expanding our Emotional Awareness

Our emotions shape our thoughts and decisions. Expanding our emotional range can improve our health, relationships, and our level of satisfaction with our lives.

A Different Kind of Resolution

If you’re struggling to keep your New Year’s resolutions, consider asking for help. Sometimes all we need is a little support and encouragement.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 5, 2022New Year, resolution, help, assistance, 2022, weight, finances, writing, goals, change, emotional growth, values, habits, support, encouragement, independence, Claudia Luiz, coping mechanisms, traumaComment

Accentuating the Positive

Both anxiety and excitement can give us the sensation of having butterflies in our stomach. When we can’t discern which we’re feeling, it often serves us better to lean into the most positive interpretation.

Healing the World Through Compassion

Human suffering is inevitable, but it is highly distressing to watch. Compassion for those in pain can serve as an antidote and compel us to help wherever we can.

Finding new Strength and Joy

We may not ever be the same after the pandemic. But we can learn and grow and start anew if we have a mindset of hope.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiSeptember 16, 2020healing, community, struggles, future, reaching out, affection, mental health, trauma, Becky Sansbury, After the Shock, comfort, control, connection, challenges, positive changeComment

Finding Your Calm

Worry, stress, and anxiety are separate conditions. It can be helpful to discern which you are experiencing. Activities that distract your mind and calm your body can make you feel better.

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