When we find ourselves giving inauthentic praise and compliments, and saying yes when we really mean no, our confusing response may be a reflexive coping mechanism called fawning.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 14, 2024fawning, people pleasing, fight, flight, freeze, trauma, Pete Walker, guilt, regret, personality, praise, narcissism, triggers, boundaries, unworthiness, habits Comments

When You Feel Like You’re Not Doing Enough

We all have times when we feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day. Acknowledging our feelings, setting more realistic expectations, and focusing on what we have accomplished can help.

Beginning a Mindfulness Practice

When we’re stressed out or overwhelmed, practicing mindfulness meditation can help us recalibrate and rebalance ourselves so we’re better prepared to handle life’s challenges.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 2, 2022Thích Nhất Hạnh, breathing, present moment, mindfulness, awareness, meditation, stress, stress-reduction, anxiety, health, neuroplasticity, attention, intention, attitude, habits Comments

A Different Kind of Resolution

If you’re struggling to keep your New Year’s resolutions, consider asking for help. Sometimes all we need is a little support and encouragement.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 5, 2022New Year, resolution, help, assistance, 2022, weight, finances, writing, goals, change, emotional growth, values, habits, support, encouragement, independence, Claudia Luiz, coping mechanisms, traumaComment

To Improve your Relationships, try Focusing on the Little Things

By taking note and writing down the daily kindnesses our partners show us, we can diminish our irritation and increase our positive feelings towards them.

How to Handle Unwanted Advice

If we respond to unwanted advice with a brief “thank you,” acknowledging the well-meaning gift that’s been offered to us, it can create an opening for us to consider another point of view.

From the Experts: 5 Ways to Cultivate Happiness

We can take steps to deliberately shift our mentality to be more in line with what the research shows helps people to realize their innate potential for joy.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 29, 2020happy, happiness, authenticity, mood, positive psychology, attitude, joy, optimism, strengths, positive emotion, habits, positive mindset, Sara Niemietz Comments

How do you Talk to Yourself?

Like dealing with an insistent toddler, who only gets louder when his or her needs aren’t attended to, the only way to get our inner voice to relax is to make it feel heard.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 15, 2020inner critic, Hal and Sidra Stone, embracing your inner critic, harsh conscience, self-talk, negative self-talk, inner dialogue, habits, inner voice, metacognition, internalized parent, guilt Comments

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