How our Stress Language Affects our Relationships

We all have different reactions to stress. There are healthy ways to manage our stress that don’t involve taking it out on others, especially those for whom we care the most.

We Can Get Through This Together

These are not easy times, but human beings are incredibly resilient. There are many ways to cope with our current predicament, including embracing humor, gratitude, and virtual gatherings.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 18, 2020Elaine Klonicki, the authentic lane, stress, anxiety, coping, survival tips, humor, obsessions, connecting, gratitude, fear, disappointments, strugglesComment

How Boundaries Help us Navigate Relationships - Part II

We feel most comfortable in relationships when we know how to behave and what to expect from our loved ones. Boundaries, when properly expressed, can greatly simplify relationships and keep us from stepping on each other’s toes.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 11, 2020boundaries, relationships, Elaine Klonicki, the authentic lane, personal boundaries, communication, healthy boundaries, unhealthy boundaries, internal boundaries, setting boundaries, proactive boundaries, understand boundaries, learning about boundariesComment

What's Wrong With Positive Thinking?

It can be difficult to restrain ourselves from trying to fix others’ moods, especially if it’s a longstanding habit. It requires some patience and an understanding of how emotions work to allow others to have their authentic feelings.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 26, 2020positive thinking, authentic feelings, struggles, positivity, affirmations, personal growth, toxic positivity, validation, processing feelings, patience, understanding, restraintComment

How Active Listening Restores Calm

So often when we encounter people who are upset, in our desire to help, we unintentionally fan the flames. The first thing they need is to feel heard and to have their feelings validated. Active listening techniques can help.

Are you Worthy of Love?

The process of learning to love ourselves is nearly identical to the way we begin to care for a new love interest—one attentive, loving action at a time that, over the course of weeks or months, cements a relationship and builds trust.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 12, 2020love, self-love, worthiness, love language, narcissism, balanced love relationships, positive sense of self, being in love, Carl Rogers, Erich Fromm, authenticityComment

When It’s Time to Move On

If you’re at a juncture in life, trying to figure out what comes next, do your research and talk to your friends, but then go inside to the deepest part of your true self.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 5, 2020new stage, next steps, reinventing ourselves, stages of life, life junctures, new opportunities, transitionsComment

From the Experts: 5 Ways to Cultivate Happiness

We can take steps to deliberately shift our mentality to be more in line with what the research shows helps people to realize their innate potential for joy.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 29, 2020happy, happiness, authenticity, mood, positive psychology, attitude, joy, optimism, strengths, positive emotion, habits, positive mindset, Sara Niemietz Comments

From the Experts: 5 Ways to Beat Depression

Reading often gives us a new perspective of a situation, which is just what we need to turn our dispositions around.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 22, 2020depression, Richard O'Connor, Albert Ellis, Hal and Sidra Stone, inner critic, self-talk, negativity, gratitude, eckhart tolle Comments

How do you Talk to Yourself?

Like dealing with an insistent toddler, who only gets louder when his or her needs aren’t attended to, the only way to get our inner voice to relax is to make it feel heard.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 15, 2020inner critic, Hal and Sidra Stone, embracing your inner critic, harsh conscience, self-talk, negative self-talk, inner dialogue, habits, inner voice, metacognition, internalized parent, guilt Comments

Are you Doing the Work?

Many spiritual authors believe that our thoughts cause most of our suffering, and we all have the capacity to end our own suffering, allowing for joy to become our predominant emotion.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 9, 2020renewal, resolutions, seasonal affect disorder, SAD, Byron Katie, The Work, What About Bob?, baby stepsComment

An Opportunity to Begin Again

The passing of the previous year provides us with a natural transition and a good time to take stock.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiDecember 31, 2019New Year's, luck, prosperity, good fortune, traditions, Buddhist, hurts, disappointments, resentments, achievements, authenticity, becoming yourselfComment

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