Being too other-focused comes at a cost. It is only when we become still and listen that we can return to ourselves and discover the next right thing.

Why it's Good to Accept Help

Reciprocity in relationships gives each person a turn to be the giver and a turn to be the receiver. If we exclusively give, we rob others of the opportunity to feel the joy inherent in helping others.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 24, 2021help, giving, taking, assistance, sensitivity, childhood, shame, embarrassment, shadow self, negative emotions, compassion, inner child, reciprocity, relationships Comments

Blessings From the Irish

For all the contributions the Irish have made to civilization, it’s their people—full of charm, stories, and song—that we celebrate today.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 17, 2021blessings, Irish, Ireland, St. Patrick, Holderness Family, history, Christianity, stereotypes, positive traits, heritage, troubles, happinessComment

Boost Your Mental Immunity Through Reflection

Just as we can take steps to develop physical immunity, we can cultivate mental immunity as protection against suffering. Meditation and reflection can help lessen the intensity of negative thoughts and feelings.

Showing Compassion to our Shadow Selves

Each of us has some parts of our personalities we’re not proud of. Rather than try to shun our “shadow selves,” we can integrate them back into our core self by becoming curious about their origins, and showing them compassion.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiMarch 3, 2021compassion, shadow self, truth, curiosity, permission, personality, decision making, negative emotions, inner critic, therapy, psychotherapy, the self, feelings, protection Comments

The Benefits of Kicking up Your Heels

Exercise of any kind has been shown to decrease depression and anxiety, but dancing is especially liberating as it allows us a physical expression of our emotions.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 24, 2021dancing, endorphins, de-stress, stress relief, anxiety, depression, Carole King, mental health, relaxation techniques, mood, sleep, concentrationComment

Retrain Your Brain to Manage Your Fears

Fixating on a particular fear may be a symptom of high-functioning anxiety. The solution is to learn relaxation and other techniques to interrupt the cycle of worrying.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 17, 2021fears, managing fears, fixating, overthinking, obsessing, high-functioning anxiety, anxiety, perfectionism, fixations, resilience, worry, relaxation techniques, breathingComment

A Celebration of Love

“Openheartedness” speaks to the action that’s necessary on our part in order to embrace all our sisters and brothers. It’s never too late to learn how to access more loving feelings.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 10, 2021love, valentines, Valentine's Day, Claudia Luiz, being single, holidays, Sanskrit, openhearted, closed heart Comments

How to Become More Trustworthy

Wherever we go, we have the opportunity to set the tone and positively influence others. Being “impeccable with your word” doesn’t mean just telling the truth, but being authentic in all situations.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiFebruary 3, 2021trust, trustworthiness, trustworthy, honesty, devotion, faithfulness, The Four Agreements, ripple effect, transparency, integrity, reputation, communication, gossip, empathy, judgementComment

Working Through Trust Issues

Part of living optimistically, with hope, is to know that although some people are capable of hurting us deeply, most people are kind and true to their word, worthy of trust.

New Life

We have many opportunities for rebirth in our lives. Some aspects of our growth are invisible, but they secure us and prepare us for the splendor we will eventually be.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 20, 2021new life, new beginnings, budding, January, retreat, seclusion, hibernation, incubation, blossoming, change, growth, rebirth, idea, spark, accomplishment, satisfaction, creativity Comments

7 Tips for Developing Compassion for Difficult People

Once you’ve broken out of the endless cycle of battles with the problematic people in your life, it’s possible to move into a better, more compassionate space with them. Here are some tips for getting started.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiJanuary 13, 2021compassion, difficult peopleComment

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