To Love Better, Take a Pause

It’s often difficult to love as we were instructed to in First Corinthians. To become more openhearted, we can pause to change our perspective, search our hearts for kindness, and say a prayer.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiDecember 20, 2022love, pause, response, reaction, minds, hearts, prayers, holiday, Corinthians, patience, affection, shame, emotions, anger, irritation, frustration Comments

When Words Seem Inadequate

When friends and relatives lose someone they love, our words often seem inadequate. What’s most important is simply to be there for them and to let them know we care.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiDecember 7, 2022death, loss, grief, faith, hope, cancer, courage, finding meaning, comfort, hurt, pain, memories Comments

Acknowledging Our Progress

It’s important to celebrate milestones in every area of our life, but especially in our personal growth. Doing so allows us to acknowledge our progress, and gives us the energy to continue pursuing our goals.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiNovember 23, 2022holiday, Thanksgiving, anniversary, honesty, authenticity, connection, growth, understanding, intention, self-worth, Carl Rogers, masks, boundaries, needs, love, vulnerability Comments

Is it Time to do a Life Audit?

It’s important to designate a time to take a step back and look at the bigger picture of your life—to take stock of where you’ve been, and consider where you’re headed.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiNovember 9, 2022reflection, self-reflection, personal audit, life audit, planning, goal setting, evaluation, assessment, course correction, priorities, taking stock, Joan Anderson Comments

The Joy of Doing What you Love

When you’re in the zone, doing what you love, you lose all track of time. The joy is compounded when you have friends who share your enthusiasm for your favorite activity.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiOctober 26, 2022hobbies, obsessions, compulsions, joy, enthusiasm, creativity, positive psychology, flow, in the zone, enjoyment, absorption, euphoria, authenticity, soulComment

How Adversity Makes us Stronger

We all struggle throughout our lives. When we’re young, we rail against the unfairness of it. But adversity teaches us many valuable life lessons, helps us grow stronger, and prepares us for future difficulties.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiSeptember 29, 2022adversity, character, strength, suffering, challenges, lessons, perseverence, turmoilComment

When There are No Words for Your Feelings

People with a condition called alexithymia have trouble identifying, processing, and expressing their emotions. If it is a learned response rather than a genetic disorder, information and support can help them expand their emotional awareness.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiSeptember 28, 2022alexithymia, feelings, emotions, words for feelings, emotional experience, emotionally aware, affect, relationships, communication, avoidance, genetic, trauma, love languageComment

Expanding our Emotional Awareness

Our emotions shape our thoughts and decisions. Expanding our emotional range can improve our health, relationships, and our level of satisfaction with our lives.

Breaking up is Hard to Do

The longer we live, the more likely we are to go through some kind of heartbreak. Self-reflection can give us perspective, and provide us with information about what we need going forward.

Posts by ElaineElaine KlonickiAugust 3, 2022love, breaking up, romantic, dating, self-esteem, relationships, connection, self-reflection, processing, heartbreak, separation, divorce, loss, grief, pain, growth, perspective, happinessComment

Days Like These

Bad days happen to everyone. There are many good options for turning them around including honoring our feelings, reframing our negative thoughts, looking for the positive, and learning to laugh things off.

Are you Delaying Your Dreams?

Deep seated, unconscious beliefs can influence our current behaviors more than we know. Some reflection may help us uncover the specific ones that are holding us back.

The Real Key to Success: Grit

There is no one formula for success in any endeavor, but studies show that perseverance often plays a more important role than natural talent.

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