Hi, I’m Elaine.
I like helping people to tap into their best qualities and to recognize and encourage them in others. I’ve spent a lifetime learning how to be happy by living authentically. Being true to ourselves and open and honest with others can be daunting, but it’s so worth it. It’s something that can be learned over time, one concept at a time.
As a lifelong reader and curious observer, for me being authentic often means going a little deeper to get to the heart of the matter. In my posts, I’ll be offering a sincere and thoughtful exploration into the most intimate and emotionally satisfying aspects of personal growth. I’ll also make suggestions, based on my own experiences, about how you can look within and discover who you truly are, with the goal of helping you to create a more fulfilling life for yourself.
If you’re ready to get started, read on!
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Sometimes when someone shares a problem with us, it can throw us into a frame of mind where we feel compelled to take quick action on their behalf. A better idea is to let them know you have confidence in their ability to work through things themselves.
Read MoreIf we respond to unwanted advice with a brief “thank you,” acknowledging the well-meaning gift that’s been offered to us, it can create an opening for us to consider another point of view.
Read MoreDeveloping the ability to acknowledge our mistakes and offer a sincere and complete apology when we hurt others can go a long way toward repairing our relationships.
Read MoreThe decision to offer someone forgiveness is often a difficult one. Understanding some of the factors involved may lead to greater compassion, and eventually to the possibility of reconciliation.
Read MoreIt takes time for us to process the array of emotions that comes with a significant transgression against us. But when we’re ready, our hearts will begin to soften and we will sense that forgiveness is possible.
Read MoreOur personalities are formed in part as a reaction to our early environments. The Enneagram model can help us understand our acquired personality traits, and provide a pathway for growth so that we can get closer to our true essence.
Read MoreBoredom is one of those feeling states that can move us to make a change. If we take steps to address our lack of motivation, it can lead to a spurt in creativity or productivity.
Read MoreWorry, stress, and anxiety are separate conditions. It can be helpful to discern which you are experiencing. Activities that distract your mind and calm your body can make you feel better.
Read MoreAll couples have ongoing differences. Learning to accept each other’s personality traits without judgment and using affection and humor when we communicate about them can make room for more loving feelings.
Read MoreIt makes sense to honor the collective sadness related to this virus. But then we need to carry on, even joyfully, as those who have passed on would likely want us to.
Read MoreYou can learn to increase your level of “psychological resilience,” or the ability to mentally and emotionally cope with a crisis, at any age. Now is a good time to start.
Read MoreAs Mr. Rogers advised, in scary times we have to “look for the helpers.” We’ve been seeing the helpers in abundance this week, with neighbors helping neighbors all over the world.
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